Househusbands wanted
The person who penned this article and attends one of my classes has requested to stay anonymous.
Compared to the situation in the past and in many other countries in the world, the situation of women in Europe is almost better:
– Women have the right to earn and to manage their own money (in the 1950‘s it was not self-evident. Women needed their husband’s permission when they wanted to open a bank account or to have a job)
– Young girls have access to education and to the university (what is also not evidence in other parts of the world, and also not in Europe at the end of the 19th)
– After the First World War in Germany, in France only after the Second World War, women were granted the right to vote.
– In the public space, women are allowed to move freely (unlike in some cultures, where women are not allowed to drive a car or to go to a football stadium, and in some countries where they need to be accompanied by a man to leave their private sphere: by their husband, their brother, their father) but even in France, it is sometimes more difficult for women than for men to stay alone in a pub in the evening, without being bothered by a man.
With regard to the violence against women, the situation of women in Europe is surely better than in some countries in the world (think of acid attacks against women in Asia, at the abortions that are performed because the foetus is a girl,… …), but the number of rapes and of domestic violence against women is also quite high in Germany and France. The need to set up women’s shelters is symptomatic of the unequal treatment of women and men.
Last but not least: Equality of opportunities should also mean that women have the same opportunities as men to make a career, whether in the world of work or in politics.
I think we are still a long way from achieving this and that way feminism is also today not obsolete
In the world of work:
The equal payday was 2019 on March 25th
In 2018 women earned about 24% less than men. For the same qualification and the same jobs about 12 % less.
The reason for this is obviously that women work in sectors where pay is lower. But this is nevertheless a consequence rather than a cause: the pay is low in these sectors because many women work in these jobs; another reason is that many women work part-time (they earn less, and they have because they don’t work full-time less chance to make a career; they forgo most as men to make a career for the children); it also matters that women often seem to accept lower wages more quickly than men, …
In the world of politics:
Men are overrepresented despite the fact that there is, in many countries, a women quota in regional or local elections.
So, the key question is:
What has to be changed in order that women have the same possibilities as men to make a career in jobs or in politics?
I think that women will never have the same professional opportunities as men, as long as men are not ready to take as much care of education and the household as women do.
That means that not only do women ask themselves if and how they can manage career and family together if they must sacrifice their own career for the good of their children, but that men are also ready to become househusbands or to work part-time.
Only if women can have the same time as men for their jobs, will an employer know that they can identify with their work as men do, and only if there are so many househusbands as housewives will an employer wonder if it is not better to employ a woman than a man for a job which requires full-time and engagement.
This would be a revolution in mentalities which could also have good consequences for men:
Most of them feel bad when they are unemployed, although their women have a good job: why don’t they think it is a possibility for them too to be housemen. Perhaps young men wouldn’t find it tragic when they can’t find a job. It will be a recognized alternative to being a househusband.
The goal is not that all the women and all the men make absolutely the same, but that they have absolutely the same possibilities of lifestyles and the same chances. The goal is that there are no more gender-stereotypical expectations.
It will be a sign of change and of equal rights and chances between men and women when a journalist will ask a young politician or a manager, how he manages to reconcile family and work.
